In this age of social networking, meeting people is no longer something you do only at bars and nightclubs. Online matchmaking sites, chat rooms, instant messaging, and social networking sites are bringing people together in greater numbers, allowing them to “meet” in cyberspace in the safe confines of their home, protected by the anonymity of the internet. But eventually, when it’s time to take the next step and meet in person, safety becomes a concern. After all, how much do you really know about your new online acquaintance? From the first instant message to the first face-to-face meeting, you must take every precaution when meeting people online. This feature provides you with a few rules to keep you safe in the new online dating world.

Find the Right Dating Site for You

There are dozens of online dating sites, each catering to different interests and groups; including people who are HIV infected. With so many to choose from, you need to do your homework.

How Much are you Willing to Spend?
Some sites are free while others charge a fee. Keep in mind that paying a fee doesn’t guarantee you will get a better site experience. And always be on the alert for sites that just want your money and give little in return.

What Are You Looking For?
If you’re in your twenties, you may not want a dating site that caters to people over 40. If you’re gay you may want to look for a site that caters to gay and bisexual singles. Finally, if you are HIV-positive, you may want a site devoted to HIV-positive people. Simply put, consider sites that offer what you are looking for in a date.

What Type of Relationship are you Looking For?
People visit dating sites for different reasons. Some are looking for friendship; some are looking for serious, long-term relationships, while others are looking for “hookups” or extra-marital relationships. Knowing what relationship you want will help narrow down your site choices.

Baby Steps to Start Off

If this is your first foray into the online dating scene, take it slow and easy. Browse many sites to see what they offer. Make certain you understand how to search for people; how others find you; and finally how you contact dating prospects. Visit a chat lobby or an open chat room and watch the conversations. Learn the tone of the site; how conversations progress and what topics are typically discussed. Is the site rated “G” or is any topic fair game? make certain you understand the site before jumping in with both feet.

Trust Your Feelings

If you frequent a dating site long enough chances are you will find someone you’d like to get to know better. Some sites match you based on character assessments you complete upon joining the site. Others let you find matches yourself. Either way, you will find someone who piques your curiosity. Unfortunately, for every genuine person on a dating website, there are as many or more dishonest people with questionable motives. During those initial conversations, be on the lookout for “red flags” — those behaviors or discussions that give you a hint something isn’t quite right. Trust your feelings; if it doesn’t seem right it probably isn’t. If someone sounds too good to be true they probably are.

Recognize the Red Flags

The fact of the matter is people are not always honest about who they are, what they look like, and whether they are married, single, divorced or widowed. People even lie about the number of kids they have or whether they have kids at all. There are some red flags that help separate the good guys or gals from the bad. Learn to recognize those red flags.

Inconsistent Information
If the person you are interested in is inconsistent in their description of themselves, their lives, past relationships, or current work situation, that may mean they’re lying. For instance, be wary of someone claiming to be 25 but uses terms and phrases more typical of a 40-year-old.

Sudden Hang-ups
Once you start talking on the phone, sudden hang-ups, frequent “dropped calls,” or speaking in hushed tones typically means your new interest is not single like their online profile claims.

Wanting too Much Information too Soon
Anyone pushing for too much personal information — e.g. your home address, work address, type of car, etc. should be approached with caution. This person may want to steal your identity or break into your house. Be very cautious when divulging personal information.

Very Interested in your Financial Situation
Anyone that seems overly interested in your financial situation should be approached with extreme caution. Also, anyone who willingly shares his or her financial problems should be watched closely. And for sure, if someone asks you for money to cover one of their debts or financial issues, turn and walk the other way. And, it goes without saying, never share bank information with your new friend; including having him or her go with you to the ATM.

Online dating is becoming a very popular and viable option for those looking for companionship and love. There are sites out there for just about anyone; from single parents to single seniors and even single HIV positive people and for those who have STDs. And while a few years ago online dating was thought to be inferior to the old fashion way, today it is an accepted and even preferable choice; resulting in meaningful relationships and even marriage. But sadly, the culture we live in dictates that we take every possible precaution when meeting someone new online. But if you follow the simple and common sense rules we have talked about here, the love of your life could be no more than a mouse-click away.

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• Eye contact is a powerful means of flirting.
• Body language has been proven to have more of an impact than verbal communication.
• Flirting is so exciting because neither of you know what it will lead to.

Flirting can be one of the more pleasant and exciting aspects of life. It can be a heady experience that causes the heart to beat faster, and the result of a blush and downcast eyes is oddly but undeniably satisfying. The idea that flirtation has become the sole province of females is erroneous; the mere act of tossing someone a significant glance can be considered flirting and, for that reason alone, men play an equal role in the drama. But this is a dance that requires carefully placed and well-timed steps, and it’s long past time to dispose of your tricks, techniques and pickup lines. Let us turn to science and the ongoing study of social interaction to guide our dance steps. You may be surprised at the amount of knowledge you don’t yet have on the science of flirting.

It all begins with eye contact

Actually, it begins and ends with eye contact, because if she realizes you haven’t focused on her eyes for even two consecutive seconds, she’ll lose attention before you even say a word. As the Social Issues Research Centre put it: “Your eyes are probably your most important flirting tool… they are also extremely high-powered transmitters of vital social signals.” Eye contact is extraordinarily powerful, so it’s important to walk the line between intensity and subtlety, which is why we usually restrict direct eye contact to only a second or two. This all falls in line with The Player’s very simple method of making more eye contact when listening and averting your gaze a bit more when speaking.

Keep communication honest and balanced

While it remains true that men and women are often at odds in regard to communication, it’s still possible to strike up an engaging, entertaining discussion without posturing. Both sexes can be guilty of bending the truth and altering their behavior, and posturing and untruths (unintentional, though they may be) are often prevalent in a first conversation. According to a Real Talk tidbit at California Physics, this is a bad idea. The article uses as an example of a man who orients his actions and speech toward seduction, which is nothing more than an invented personality. The same goes for girls who say “I love you” just so they can hear men say the same words. Obviously, the key is to avoid the mind games, keep it simple and, as the article states, “Let the authentic reward come to you.”

Never underestimate body language

The numbers have been confirmed time and time again. The science of flirting is a popular subject among researchers and love-seekers alike, and in terms of importance, body language always seems to top the list. The BBC’s comprehensive look at love and flirting has revealed that 55% of all given and received messages come from body language. Only 7% is in the words we say. As you can see, the advice involved in the column is to accept this, embrace it and, in some cases, “match their moves.” In other words, come to recognize the concept of “mirroring.” It shows reciprocated interest and places both parties on equal footing, which is something that is of great interest to the ladies. But above all else, just ditch the pickup lines and other verbal techniques, because that 7% ain’t gonna help much. Paul Newman, a man among men, was a “student of human moves” in The Color of Money. You should be too.

Let nature guide you

Contrary to the  Disney-esque “everyone is beautiful on the inside” mantra, science knows the truth of the matter. In one of the most in-depth looks at flirting you will find anywhere, a feature in Psychology Today detailed everything from the origins of flirting to inherent chemical attractions. Note the fact that men are drawn to healthy, curvy women. In fact, they have numbers to prove it. The waist-hip ratio is crucial; women who have a 0.7 waist-hip ratio (the waist measures no more than 70% of the circumference of the hip) get all the attention. They have a “sex-typical hormone profile in the relationship of estrogen to testosterone,” which is what men desire at their core.

It’s just one of the brutal truths of biology — those with “tip-top constitutions” will likely draw your eye, so don’t fight it! Nature will pick the best targets.

Revel in the “game of maybe”

A Time article that took an in-depth look at flirting found that it is intoxicating because of its uncertainty. The writer calls flirting “the game of maybe” and quotes Timothy Perper, who has been researching the science of flirting for 30 years, as saying: “Flirting captures the interest of the other person and says, ‘Would you like to play?’… Flirting opens a window of potential. Not yes, not no.” Essentially, there is no defined set of laws — no formula — that you must always follow. Simply give yourself over to the excitement and go with the flow, always allowing for the unexpected — because the unexpected is half the fun.

Leave posing to the models

This really only applies to men, as women will always strike certain poses when they’re aware of interest (regardless of how vehemently they deny it), and it usually helps to finalize the deal. An article entitled Body Language: The Art of Nonverbal Communication found that women are expected to be more expressive, while men are supposed to “internalize” their emotions. The differences in body language between the two sexes stem from both genetics and social mores, and if we take everything into account, the woman’s interest appears to take center stage. In short, the physical, nonverbal maneuvering by women should be more expressive, while guys should probably keep what the article calls “preening behavior” at bay.

Yes, the pickup world would be an easier place in which to survive; but let’s face it, part of the challenge (and fun) is knowing who to target and discovering whether they’ll take the bait.

You’ll still have to brush up on your pickup techniques, charm and smooth moves, but in the large pool of fish that is the female world, I’ll help you determine if she’s ready for the taking or swimming with some bigger sharks. It’s then up to you to throw her the line and reel her in.

Available or not?

Unfortunately, we don’t live in a world where our dating availability is conveniently marked on our foreheads. (If you’ve been single all your life, this should make you breathe a huge sigh of relief.) Figuring out whether or not she’s single takes more detective work, and it may not be determined in just one sitting.

Remember that there is no one giveaway to whether or not she’s single — you’ll need to look for several hints to determine the truth.

Affirmative: she’s single

She’s full of eye contact

There’s a difference between a single woman and a serial flirt (the serial flirt may have a boyfriend, but she teases every man that comes within range). Unless she’s a chronic people-watcher, if her eye contact is darting all over the room as if looking for potential mates, you may be able to checkmate her.

Women who are already attached usually don’t bother looking around the club (unless they’re looking for someone they know in particular), as they go to bars with no intention of meeting men and don’t need to check out the merchandise.

She’s making eye contact with you and smiling

Eye contact is usually one of the first signs of interest, and if she’s making intense eye contact with you from across the bar, then chances are she wants you to head on over and give her a try.

She’s talking to every guy in the bar

If you see her talking to many guys from a distance, it may mean that she’s open to conversation, therefore, it’s your cue to go up to her and find out all about her ways.

She looks at other couples with sadness

If you’re observing her from afar and you notice her looking at other couples, she could be longing for the days when she was once also attached. That’s where you come in.

Her body language says it all

If you’re familiar with the dating game, then you surely know that body language can say a lot about a person, and if she has a boyfriend, then chances are she won’t be twirling her hair and touching other men ever so casually. If you muster up enough courage to approach her, try to observe what her body language is saying:

• Arms crossed, standing back: “Get away or I’ll kick my heel in your face.”
• Touches your arm or leg subtly, or her own arm (she wants you to touch her): “Let’s keep talking.”

She’s a chatterbox

If you start talking to a woman you work with, for example, and in one conversation she tells you that she has a dog named Max, does a lot of cooking, goes to the gym every week, and takes art lessons, chances are she doesn’t have a man to come home to. The two tip-offs? She has a lot of time on her hands and does a lot to keep herself busy. And she’s very open and friendly when it comes to you.

More signals she’s single

It’s more difficult to know whether a woman is single in only one meeting; it can take several encounters to figure it out on your own. With these tips, you’ll eventually be able to put two and two together.

Out with the girls… again

Unavailable women do go out and have fun with their girlfriends, but they have to make some time for the men in their lives. If you see the same girl out with her friends more than once at the same bar, within a short period of time, chances are she’s flying solo.

She dances with other men

If the two of you frequent the same club and she’s often seen dancing with different men (but you know she came with the same group of female friends she always comes with), it’s likely that she’s dancing to her own tune, unless her and her boyfriend have a very “open” relationship.

Single women who are actively looking for a man are more likely to branch away from their friends and remain open to romantic possibilities. When you catch her on her own or back with her group of female friends, make your move.

She’s overly friendly

Don’t get us wrong, but attached women tend to be less friendly with other men; they give off a more standoffish attitude when approached. Whether you’re at a bar or at the gym, and you notice that a woman is very sweet and friendly with most men she encounters, it’s possible that she’s single. Her attitude can be an indication of her status.

Spot a single woman with stealth

You don’t need to run through this list mentally to establish whether or not she’s single; you can always find out for yourself by approaching her and asking for her number; she may say she already has a boyfriend, and whether or not that’s true is a tossup — but it’s always worth a try.

If she says she’s already taken, ask her how her boyfriend could bear to let her go out when all the guys must be after her — you can always see if she’s telling the truth by her reaction to this one.

This becomes more complicated when dealing with a female colleague or someone you see often, since you don’t want to come right out and ask if she’s romantically involved or not. In this case, you can use the aforementioned hints as clues to her status.

So if the signs point to her being single, then gather up all your courage, head her way and work your magic. And if she rejects you, just assume she’s already taken — you have bigger fish to fry.

Nothing makes us want to stand at attention more than a bunch of scantily clad babes in military themed photo shoots, representing each month of the year with different weapons. This week we’re bringing you the hotties of the Hot Shots 2012 calendar, and today’s Babe of the Day is UK glamour model India Reynolds.

Although India is better known naked, she begrudgingly put some clothes on for the calendar. (Okay, so we don’t know if that’s entirely true, but that’s how we’d like to imagine her reaction to clothing.) Something you wouldn’t know about India just by looking at her? She’s smart. Before she began her modeling career, she was studying criminology and sociology at Kingston University.

Not only do the calendars provide some serious eye candy, but also 50% of the proceeds go to UK-based charity Help for Heroes, an organization founded for British servicemen and women wounded since September 11, 2001.

“You won’t have to wait for my call tomorrow if you sleep over. ”

“You know how some men buy really expensive cars to make up for certain shortages? Well, I don’t even own a car.”

“You look like the type of woman who’s heard every line in the book, so what’s one more?”

“A woman as beautiful as you deserves a man as rich as me.”

“So, is it a burden being that beautiful?”

“(Hand her a drink.) Drink this, and call me when you’re ready.”

“Cute dog. Does it have a phone number?”

“Do you believe in sex before the first date?”

“So, what do you turn in to at midnight?”

“I’m fighting the urge to make you the happiest woman on earth tonight.”

“This isn’t a beer belly, it’s a fuel tank for a love machine.”

“You can stand next to me as long as you don’t talk about the heat.”

“I hope the rest of your day is as radiant as your smile.”

“My buddies over there said that I wouldn’t be able to start a conversation with the most beautiful girl in the bar. Wanna buy some drinks with some of their money?”

“I’ve had a terrible day, and it always makes me happy to see a gorgeous woman smile. Would you smile for me?”

“You shouldn’t wear makeup. It’s messing with perfection!”

“Are you O.K.? Because heaven is a long fall from here.”

“I didn’t know that angels could fly so low!”

“If I followed you home, would you keep me?”

“Is there an airport nearby or is that just my heart taking off?”

“What time do you have to be back in heaven?”

“Wow.” It’s just so simple

“Your legs must be tired because you’ve been running through my mind all night.”

“It’s my birthday! How about a birthday kiss? (Is it really your birthday?) No, but how about a kiss anyway?”

“Excuse me, does this tequila taste funny? (Hand them an untouched shot) ”

“(Get as close as you can to the other, then stare at his/her lips) Can you feel it? There is some kinda sexual attraction. Can you feel it, too? ”

“You be the biscuits and I’ll be the gravy, let us do breakfast sometime. ”

“Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?”

“You see my friend over there? [Point to friend who sheepishly waves from afar] He wants to know if you think I’m cute.”

“The only thing your eyes haven’t told me is your name.”

Check out the 10 things you can do on a date that will do just that. For each option, we’ve included a 1 to 10 rating on the sexiness of the activity, plus a rating of how interested most women would likely be by the date.

Early in her career, Bianca Beauchamp studied to be a French teacher. (We know. Hot right?) However, while participating in an internship, Bianca’s modeling website was discovered. Pictures of the new French teacher in revealing latex outfits didn’t go over well with the powers that be.

Beauchamp was forced to shut down her site periodically while she pursued her teaching degree. Ultimately, she decided that modeling was more important to her, and left teaching behind to model full time. We think she made the right decision since she was voted in askmen.com  Top 99 Most Desirable Women list.

Her website : http://www.biancabeauchamp.com/

BDSM is an erotic preference and a form of sexual expression involving the consensual use of restraint, intense sensory stimulation, and fantasy power role-play. The compound acronym BDSM is derived from the terms bondage and discipline (B&D or B/D), dominance and submission (D&S or D/s), and sadism and masochism (S&M or S/M). BDSM includes a wide spectrum of activities, forms of interpersonal relationships, and distinct subcultures.

Activities and relationships within a BDSM context are characterized by the participants usually taking on complementary, but unequal roles, thus the idea of consent of both the partners becomes essential. Typically participants who are active – applying the activity or exercising control over others – are known as tops or dominants. Those participants who are recipients of the activities, or who are controlled by their partners are typically known as bottoms or submissives. Individuals who assume either top/dominant or bottom/submissive roles — whether from relationship to relationship or within a given relationship — are known as switches.

There are thousands—if not millions—of individuals who indulge in fantasies others would deem perverse that have their nascence in some of the darkest moments of human history. It is possible someone you know pays a person to dress like a German Nazi to treat them like a “dirty Jew”, or to force them to pick cotton off the floor like a slave.

An S&M dungeon is a place where these individuals act out such taboos. Businesses that operate to meet their needs are often hidden, but they do exist and are typically legal. The clients want to remain confidential for fear of ostracism in their respective communities. As Sigmund Freud wrote, “Anyone who has violated a taboo becomes taboo himself because he possesses the dangerous quality of tempting others to follow his example.”

Meet Bill & Rebecca, owners of a BDSM dungeon

David Shankbone: What first attracted you to this business?

Bill: Nothing other than it seemed like it would be profitable; we had a third partner who knew someone who was involved in this business. It was supposed to be a business that we weren’t going to run, if you recall.

Rebecca: Right.

Bill: We were going to be absentee. Nothing but money.

DS: You would provide start-up costs and get it going?

Bill: Precisely. But there were some setbacks; we ended up running it ourselves, learning a lot about the business and doing it really well. I had a doctorate in psychology; my wife is probably the best salesperson I’ve ever seen in the world. Together, we’ve been able to put together a nice model business. We’re probably the best S&M-fantasy-role-playing dungeon in Manhattan. We are that way because we think of the client first. What makes us different than all the other dungeons: we treat them like human beings first.

Rebecca: We’re not–the typical.

Bill: We are atypical.

Rebecca: Right.

DS: What makes you atypical?

Bill: A couple of things. We run it like a business. We do not run it like a club. We did our homework and found most of the places in the city are run by people that aren’t the smartest, aren’t the sanest, aren’t great businesspeople; they don’t have a business background. They are people more inclined to be interested in S&M. Where my wife and I, we’re sort of interested in money first.

DS: You don’t a have personal interest in S&M?

Bill: No, I don’t. I do not.

Rebecca: [Shakes her head no]

DS: How is it that you’re able to run a business that’s centered around S&M and caters to those clients, when you don’t have that inclination for yourselves?

Bill: Good question for you.

Rebecca: We’re still looking out for their needs. They’re still human beings, and they have needs. So each and every person, I look out for their needs. And they all think I’m their best friend.

Their home life

DS: What do your kids feel about this as a business?

Bill: They don’t know.

Rebecca: They don’t know. That’s why we want to be anonymous.

DS: What would they think?

Bill: I don’t know, but I don’t think it’d be healthy.

Rebecca: I think my almost-seventeen-year-old would be okay with it. My middle one I don’t think would be very happy, and my youngest would probably want to do it.

DS: What do they think you do?

Bill: They know I’m a psychologist.

DS: Do you have a practice?

Bill: I haven’t for a long time. They know I have some other businesses as well; we run some other businesses.

DS: Kids just don’t care what their parents do.

Rebecca: Right. Exactly. But in a way, I feel like I’m mothering 30 girls sometimes.

DS: Is that taxing on you?

Rebecca: It’s exhausting.

Bill: That’s why people can’t do this business.

DS: How do you handle that?

Rebecca: Sometimes, some days I go home and cry.

DS: So when people bring problems into work, which happens in any workplace, you’re the one that they probably turn to.

Rebecca: Yeah.

DS: Do either of you think ever of leaving this business?

Bill: Yeah, we will.

Rebecca: We will at some point.

Bill: I’ll retire and live off my millions.

Rebecca: At this point, I–we’ve worked so hard. I mean, at the beginning, I didn’t think I’d actually be proud of it. Now it’s something–

Bill: We have a lot of people that depend on us here. A lot of girls we put through grad school, a lot of girls. We’ve lent money to a lot of people here; we’ve helped out a lot of people–we’ve done that.

Rebecca: It’s so much part of who I am, and I would never believe that it was actually me. I would never have thought this would be part of who I am, and at this point it is.

DS: But your kids know you work nights. What do you tell them when you’re leaving?

Rebecca: I just try to tell them–I try to condense my work so that I can be home with them also.

DS: But what do they think that you’re doing?

Rebecca: Work.

DS: Work. Just–generic work?

Rebecca: I am doing work.

Bill: A non-issue. I have an advertising business as well, a little advertising business.

DS: I got you. So it’s just we’re going to work on the business.

Rebecca: Right.

Bill: Since Rebecca works in the advertising business anyway, she might be there at another time, so it doesn’t really matter.

Rebecca: I’m a really bad liar, so I tell them, “I’m working.” I really am working.

DS: Yeah.

Bill: She’s not always here. She may be at the advertising, doing some stuff, working with some print ads. So it’s kind of nice to be able to tell the truth that way–

Rebecca: You know, so I’ll–maybe I’ll bring some papers with me and stuff, but I really am working. So–work is work.

Operating the business

The costs

Bill: There’s a misconception in this industry. Your exposure to this is probably primarily what you see in movies, scanning magazines, scanning the Internet, just snippets everywhere. It’s portrayed as though it’s dark, black and evil. And–

Rebecca: Oh man, well?

Bill: What’s up?

Rebecca: I do wear a lot of black.

DS: [chuckles]

Bill: It’s anything but that. If you look at the rooms, there’s all the accouterments you’d find in these types of places–but more than anything, there’s a lot of good feeling around here. We hire the opposite of what you’d think we would hire, what the average person would think we would hire. We hire educated, nice people.

Rebecca: I remember one of our ads that I had put in said, “If you think nice girls don’t do S&M,”–I forgot what the rest of it said–

Bill: “–think again.”

Rebecca: Yeah, “think again” or something like that. And that ad had pulled so many girls, because they–I think they all thought that nice girls don’t do this. And a bunch of them had called and they said, “Wow.” And I think I remember, a bunch of guys called because of that also. Do you remember?

Bill: I sure do, I sure do.

DS: What are the startup costs involved?

Bill: It varies; look around Manhattan, look around rents, look around build-outs, look around hiring, look around advertising…

DS: What’s your greatest non-fixed cost?

Bill: The single most costly thing we spend on is rent and advertising, those two together make up the bulk of what we spend. There’s supplies, and there’s wear and tear and maintenance, and bookkeeping and things like that that you have to do. That’s about it. The hardest thing in running this business, which is why people can’t do it, is the relationship that my wife has with the gals and with the customers.

DS: Where do you advertise?

Bill: A lot on the web, we’ve used most of the local city papers, New York Press, things like that, L Magazine.

DS: In the back of the paper?

Bill: Typically in the back of the paper. Magazines constantly change their policy on it; they want it, they don’t want it…

Rebecca: Depending on the election year–

Bill: Who’s buying the paper, who’s selling the paper. So it changes, so one year we got to be in the Press, but they have now stopped adult ads.

Rebecca: Completely.

Bill: So now we’ll be in the Voice for a while. We’re moving more towards the Internet at this point, because the Internet is a much easier, safer way for a person to look at sensitive material and not get caught with it.

You need that specific something for sexual gratification. When you masturbate, you fantasize about that particular thing. Even if you have sex with a partner, you still need to fantasize about that object or have it present for you to get off.

For instance, if you’re attracted to brunettes, that’s one thing, but if you are unable to get aroused unless you’re with a brunette, then you likely have a fetish for brunettes.

History of fetishes

The word fetish originally meant “charm,” and it originates from the 15th century Portuguese word feitico , which means false power, object or charm. For example, when the Portuguese explored West Africa and encountered native religions, they called whatever talisman (totems, carvings, beads) they revered a fetish.

To the Portuguese in those days, the fetishists were those who worshiped the unusual. Later on, however, the implication of the word took on a whole different meaning.

First, a fetish involves the transfer of power from an original source onto a substitute. Second, a fetishist is someone who operates outside the circle of what is characteristically considered normal. Yeah right, what is normal nowadays?

Types of fetishes

There are many diverse kinds of fetishes, depending on the object being fetishized. Inanimate fetishes come in three varieties — media, form and animate.

In a media fetish, material is what is obsessed over. Media fetishes include rubber, leather, latex, and silk.

With a form fetish, it’s the shape of the object that has great significance. Stiletto heels, knee-high boots and lingerie fall into this category.

Feet, hair, butts, breasts, and all that good stuff are also considered fetishes, but since these objects are human, they’re called “animate” fetishes.

People can turn anything into a fetish. There are different degrees of fetishism that go from mild to extreme. It’s quite easy to tell whether your fetish is getting out of hand. Basically, if your fetish interferes with your relationship or your life, seek the help of a professional.

The following 10 fetishes were comprised through a survey that was filled out by AskMen.com readers. There are plenty of others that have been omitted, which may be somewhat tamer or 50 times more wild.

Number 10

Stomachs

Men and women both agreed that taut tummies make them somewhat crazy. But others said that they would never bed a potential partner if their tummies protruded or hung loosely.

Some guys weren’t as picky and admitted that they liked it when a woman had a tummy with a teensy-weensy little pot. One gentleman was very adamant about needing to release himself on a woman’s stomach or his experience simply wouldn’t be pleasurable.

Number 9

Body piercing

This one was quite popular with the younger crowd (18-35). Everything from bellybuttons, tongues and nipples to eyebrows and penises was not only acceptable, but for a specific few, it was a prerequisite.

One guy told us that he loves tongue rings because after being pleasured by a girl who had one, he couldn’t go back to the “ordinary.” The feeling of the cool object rubbing against his penis while her hot mouth engulfed him “felt like heaven.”

Number 8

Leather, rubber, vinyl, latex

Men seem to love material; perhaps not the actual feel of it, but the rather pornographic quality it gives to a sexual encounter. Although men look to settle down with a sweet woman, most will forever have a fixation with that “bad girl” look.

“Watching a woman move around in anything tight and shiny is a tease in itself,” says one gentleman. Another man told me that his girlfriend’s entire wardrobe consists of latex and leather.

Number 7

Domination and submission

To my amazement, most women dominate and most guys submit. HELLO! A lot of women said they love to order their men around in bed like slaves and spank them, smack them, and even penetrate them with a strap-on.

Guys, on the other hand, enjoy submitting to women and being told what to do. I guess most of them are probably tired of performing all the time. Everything I mentioned that the women do — well, the men enjoy having those things done to them. Welcome to the new millennium.

Number 6

Feet and hands

You knew this fetish was coming didn’t you? Men enjoy licking, sucking, kissing, and biting women’s feet almost exclusively. Some guys simply can’t date a woman if she has ugly feet or toes.

Women, I was surprised to learn, love to suck on men’s fingers and some can even orgasm off that alone. “There’s something about pleasuring a man’s finger as though it was a penis that gives me orgasmic pleasure,” said one woman from Seattle.

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We all know that women have vibrators, but what sex toys do men lay claim to for their personal pleasure?

Penis rings are actually one of the most popular sex toys for men. They are placed around the base of the shaft of the penis, constricting blood flow and increasing sensitivity. It also prolongs the onset of ejaculation, so the feeling is more intense when it does happen. You can use the toy during masturbation or with your partner during foreplay. Penis rings come in leather, nylon and a soft rubber; each works just as well as the other, and choosing the best one is all a matter of personal preference.

Other sex toys for men include: masturbation sleeves, sex dolls and prostate massagers.

FHM’s this year’s top 100

100. Izabel Goulart

99. Lady Gaga

98. Andrej Pejic

97. Bar Refaeli

96. Chelsy Davy

95. Gisele Bundchen

94. Leona Lewis

93. Christine Bleakley

92. Malin Akerman

91. Zoe Saldana

90. Angelina Jolie

89. Miley Cyrus

88. Olivia Munn

87. Genevieve Morton

86. Christina Aguilera

85. Hannah Tointon

84. Ana Beatriz Barros

83. Elizabeth Banks

82. Christina Hendricks

81. Dianna Agron

80. Natasha Alam

79. Jessica Lowndes

78. Jessica Biel

77. Charlize Theron

76. Eva Longoria

75. Doutzen Kroes

74. Avril Lavigne

73. Christian Serratos

72. Billie Piper

71. Jennifer Metcalfe

70. Kylie Bisutti

69. Keira Knightley

68. Emma Stone

67. Zoe Salmon

66. Olga Kurylenko

65. January Jones

64. Belinda Stewart-Wilson

63. Rachel McAdams

62. Candice Swanepoel

61. Taylor Swift

60. Alessandra Ambrosio

59. Lindsay Lohan

58. Elle Liberachi

57. Holly Willoughby

56. Dannii Minogue

55. Jessie J

54. Anne Hathaway

53. Amy Childs

52. Rachel Bilson

51. Kylie Minogue

50. Jorgie Porter

49. Rachel Stevens

48. Kara Tointon

47. Lea Michele

46. Nadine Coyle

45. Beyonce Knowles

44. Miranda Kerr

43. Shakira

42. Karen Gillan

41. Una Healy

40. Diora Baird

39. Kate Middleton

38. Eliza Dushku

37. Summer Glau

36. Sarah Harding

35. Gemma Arterton

34. Amber Heard

33. Eva Mendes

32. Scarlett Johansson

31. Pixie Lott

30. Kaya Scodelario

29. Daisy Lowe

28. Abbey Clancy

27. Audrina Patridge

26. Michelle Keegan

25. Britney Spears

24. Elisabetta Canalis

23. Emma Watson

22. Frankie Sandford

21. Hayden Panettiere

20. Vanessa Hudgens

19. Natalie Portman

18. Emily Atack

17. Ashley Greene

16. Mila Kunis

15. Kim Kardashian

14. Adriana Lima

13. Kristen Stewart

12. Cheryl Cole

11. Jessica Alba

10. Irina Shayk

9. Nicole Scherzinger

8. Kelly Brook

7. Marisa Miller

6. Brooklyn Decker

5. Olivia Wilde

4. Megan Fox

3. Rihanna

2. Katy Perry

1. Rosie Huntington-Whiteley

Melanie is currently working on a television show premiering in November 2011 on MTV2. Be sure to subscribe for updates on Melanie’s career including an 8 page spread in a very special edition of Maxim Magazine. You can also see more of Melanie in the current/first issue of “World’s Most Beautiful” 3-D magazine, photographed by Nick Saglimbeni.

Dating in 2011, 75 years later, we need a reminder that meeting women is supposed to be simple. Both sexes are overwhelmed by complicated rules and tactics that don’t help anyway. But here’s the secret. Women are dying for men to do what men do best—provide clarity and direction to the mess of modern dating.

If you want to stand out from other men and get a better response from women, don’t do what every other guy is doing. Don’t wait for her to approach you. Don’t text her to ask her out. Don’t use a neg or a pick-up line. Use your natural instincts and the manly moves that have worked for the past 100 years.

If Carnegie wrote a dating guide for 2011, it’d read something like this three-step plan to win dates and influence women. 

1. Approach Women

Take responsibility for approaching the women that you want to meet. Modern technology has caused men to lose touch with their natural inclination to initiate conversation, and the main complaint from women is that men don’t approach them often enough. Get comfortable smiling at women. Don’t worry about the ones who don’t smile back.

As for the ones who do smile back, no games or tricks are needed for follow up. All you need is a simple introduction. The key to any conversation is “state and ask.“  Make a statement and then ask a question. This will prevent you from talking about yourself too much, while also engaging her attention. Talk about anything that brought you together at the moment: the park, grocery store, coffee shop, whatever.  If the idea of starting a conversation with a stranger is intimidating, take note of Carnegie’s advice about talking to people.

“Remember that the man that you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants than he is in you and your problems. His toothache means more to him than a famine in China that kills a million people. A boil on his neck interests him more than forty earthquakes in Africa. Think of that the next time that you start a conversation.”

2. Don’t Text, Call

Call her. This is how you build connection. Do not set up a date by texting. Technology interferes with real connection because it causes the initial chemistry to flat line. Instead, build the attraction by letting her hear your voice. Research shows a deep voice is basically an advertisement of testosterone, and women have significantly more attraction when there are high testosterone cues. So drop your voice an octave and drop that cue.

Having a man call makes a woman feel important. Carnegie says it best: “When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion… creatures motivated by pride and vanity.” If you can make her feel special by taking the time to call and set up the date, you’ll set yourself apart.

On that first phone call, keep it short. Remember, there is a purpose to everything you do. Approach to get her phone number, get her number to set up date, go on a date to get to know her, get to know her to, well, you know. Don’t make the mistake of spending too much time on the phone at first. Let her get to know you in person.

3. Be the Man With the Plan

“Don’t be afraid to give your best to what seemingly are small jobs,” Carnegie wrote. “Every time you conquer one it makes you that much stronger. If you do the little jobs well, the big ones will tend to take care of themselves.”

Men don’t realize how much women desire traditional chivalry and a plan. Nor do they realize how powerful it is in developing attraction. Have a plan of when you are available to see her and what you would like to do.

This is how a confident man separates himself from all the other men. Stand out and go for what you want.  Women find it sexy when a man has a purpose.  As you start to meet and date women, have purpose, direction and a plan in everything you do, and you will have more dates than you could ever imagine. And Mr. Carnegie will be mighty proud.

This is a guide to Romanian girls. If you want to meet Romanian girls there are many ways. Romanian dating sites, Romanian chat and internet, Romanian marriage services. If I was living in the states I would consider learning the Romanian language. Romanian is not a hard language to learn. And if you learned a few words you would set yourself apart from the rest of the guys trying to win the heart of a Romanian princess for happily ever after.

I would say that if you are looking for Romanian girls for less then noble motives, do not, why waste their time and yours.

Romanian girls are an odd lot. They are actually related to the ancient Romans but live in Eastern Europe. The Roman province of Dacia was cut off during the collapse of the empire and the descendants lived in Slavic Eastern Europe.  In Romania there is also a large gypsy population (Indian origin) and even some Turkish, Hungarian and Tartar (all Asian). However the biggest mix is of course Slavic.  This is why Romanian girls are so beautiful.  They are mostly Latin, a some Slavic and a little bit something exotic, ancient and untamed.

A lot has been written about Romanians on the web both positive and negative. However, a lot of this is rooted in opinions rather than facts. Even people from Romania are partial and bias about their own society. They lose the objectivity, that a foreigner who studies the culture honestly might have.

I will not deny that some Romanian girls have sold their bodies for money. Prostitution is an issue in Romania like it is in Dubai, or Istanbul or China or NYC or London. It is not a Romanian women’s problem but a human issue. Americans women do this also, in fact think of the ridiculous the number of congressman and ‘VIPs” in the US that are caught in this. I am not saying prostitution is right or wrong. But some 24 year old Romanian students, for example, might go to Istanbul, Turkey, Italy, Spain, Germany or Dubai UAE  because women lack the self confidence that they can support themselves in other ways for their education.

Romanian girls that are young are often naive and tempted into prostitution because of their economic situation. My take on this is if somewhere their ideals where lost, but with all people they can be restored. There is not much we can do about the past. But we can have redemption.

Look at some Romanian women pics. They are hot. But the paradox is as follows. To win the heart of a Romanian women for love and for you to be your bride you have to be not rich, but wise. Not egotistical, but humble is more. Speak very calmly and softly about thing of their culture and language and history and literature. Talk about what you really believe life to be.

Keep it real and make your words match your ideas and courage, that is if you have any. Do not flash money or impress them with your Resume or nice car or other crude things, this will work with ‘new wave’ girls, but these are not the one you want. You want a beautiful dark, mysterious, humble Romanian women from the countryside with dreams and ideals.

Rich or poor, beautiful or ugly she will love you for who you are and you will live happily ever after.

The most obvious way to meet Romanian girls is to fly in Romania.  I  highly recommend it.  If you visit Romania the girls you will meet will be 100 times better than the women you might meet in the USA, on the Internet or any other way.

Thoughts from a Romanian girl Alina from abroad

I’ve been raise to respect the man near to me, to love him, to take care him more than myself, to offer all what I have the best inside me.

And to always be honest, with a good and healthy mind. Life took me far away of my Romanian country, and of course I find myself trying to have other nationality boy-friends,and here the real challenge start. I find, No system of value,no faith, no nothing.

I was shocked to see all what is matter for them is to drink, smoke/take drugs and make how much intimacy as possible with how many partners, sad to say the least.

I was thinking is something wrong with me or maybe with the first boy-friend which i had it but i tried 4 and all same, I DO NOT generalize and i still like to believed are also existing the good ones and respectful to the woman next to them.

Not mention how bad they are treating by their own woman and how surprise they was to be treated good.

Is still a paradox for me? I know something for sure. I will never ever in my life will let a man to treat me so disrespectful, my Romanian culture dont let me, my good education received from my parents again dont let me, and specially the 30 years of marriage of my parents living in respect and love. I’m proud as i’m a Romanian girl.

Beware! The No. 1 luxury of one-night stands centers around attachment. With committed sex, you are furthering love (or whatever you think love is). With one-night stands, however, interactions are merely physical. Take our tips for one-night stands and run.

Go to her place

Women tend to keep their quarters a little nicer than men, which is especially convenient when plans are made on the fly. You might not have expected to take anyone home, so your dirty gym socks and unwashed sheets can make your place seem like a war zone to her. Don’t ruin the mood with these unnecessary outside forces. Besides, there is nothing like a woman’s bed.

Also, heading to her place gives you room to flee if things start to head south chemistry-wise. A teary confession or an accidental slip of her ex-boyfriend’s name ruins the mood quickly. Hell, she could even turn out to be a psycho. No matter what dampens the flame, an exit plan should always be in the back of your mind in case you have to abandon ship. Leaving is always easier than getting her to leave.

Be safe

Mystery fuels the fire of a one-night stand. She doesn’t know you. Everything is physical — no prior knowledge required and no strings attached. Well, except for one, potentially.

Do you really need a reason to be safe? With some areas experiencing increases in diseases like HIV and syphilis, today’s one-night stands have added risks, and you don’t want to be bringing home any unwanted souvenirs.

We all know a guy who has made the occasional mistake with a woman and drilled without any hardware. No matter what she says, unprotected sex can yield fatal results for you, or for her, in the event one of you is carrying a disease that you don’t know about. Don’t ruin a perfectly good night. Be safe and get tested regularly, especially if you’re in the habit of having sex with strangers.

Besides, pickup artist extraordinaire and author of The Game Neil Strauss recommends keeping a condom in your back pocket each night out — if not for protection, he advises, then for a physical reminder that you might actual get some.

Be adventurous

Our girlfriends want sex to be a manifestation of love. This has inspired a wealth of sexual idealization, the kind that single-handedly fuels Hugh Grant’s movie career and Kenny G’s world tours. One-night stands don’t require the same sort of sensitivity, so leave that all behind. Let this be your opportunity to try out a few new things.

You have never been with this girl, so communication will guarantee a better experience. She won’t know what you’re into or what works in your short-term chemistry, so let her know exactly what is going on. Be vocal.

On the other hand, don’t be too cautious either. This is your time to shine. If she doesn’t like something, then back off, but don’t hesitate to live out your fantasy. Inversely, she might be frisky too. Maintain an open mind while she explores. Together you’ll end up going to previously uncharted territories.

Don’t be an ass

Guys tend to let the confidence of a one-night stand inflate their egos, sometimes in a demeaning way. You might not see her again, but don’t break ties on a bad note — if not for your own pride, then because all girls talk. Furthermore, this one-night stand may prompt a desire to extend your stay with this mystery woman.

Don’t ruin any opportunity to see her again with a cocky demeanor to deter her from future communication.

Once is all it takes

When men leave a serious relationship, the aftermath usually materializes into a series of one-night stands. There’s a reason for this: couples seek intimacy while strangers seek pleasure. The difference is vast, so be aware when you engage in these short escapades.

That being said, be careful. The spontaneity of one-night stands can breed carelessness. Don’t ruin your experience by making preventable mistakes.

In order to determine if the girl you’re with is open to experimenting with dirty sex, start off by testing the waters with a few questions on the more innocent end of the sexual spectrum. Try: “Have you ever tied anyone up or been tied up?” “Do you own any sex toys?” “What do you fantasize about when you masturbate?” “What is something you’ve always wanted to try?”

These questions should get her to open up and start sharing some intimate details of her sexual personality with you. Then you can lead her down the path to dirtiness and hopefully get her to have dirty sex. If she gets scared off or grossed out by these questions, you have yourself a non-kinky girl — too bad for you.

Still, even the innocent can be corrupted. Here are our suggestions to help you get her to have dirty sex.

Tell her about your fantasies

If you get the feeling that she’ll be receptive to taking a darker turn in your sex life together, take the first step by revealing some of your secret fantasies. Dole out a little at a time and see how she reacts. Hopefully, she’ll share some of her inner thoughts in return; when she does, make sure you show plenty of enthusiasm for her ideas if you want to get her to have dirty sex. An important thing to keep in mind when having this sharing session is to keep it in the realm of fantasy. Don’t start telling her about dirty sex you’ve had in the past with other women or your whole plot will come to a screeching halt.

Make it new for both of you

Approach the dirty experimentation like it’s new for both of you. Think of something you’ve never tried before and suggest that you try it together. If she knows you’re starting out on a level playing field, she’ll be more likely to let her inhibitions go and get wild with you. If you want to get her to have dirty sex with you and you act like you’re an expert in the area, chances are she’s going to freeze up on you instead of enjoying herself.

Play a sex game

So you’re both open to the idea of getting dirtier in bed together. Now, how do you get started? Talking about it is a lot easier than actually introducing the nastiness into your sex life. A sex game might be just the thing to help you get started. Visit a sex shop and check out the card and board games they have for sale. These are usually aimed at couples that want to add some excitement to their love life and they should give you some ideas. Or, use your imagination and make up your own game together at home. The idea is to get both of you to open up and start trying things out. If all else fails, you can always fall back on the old standard of Truth or Dare.

Watch porn or read erotic stories

Get each other in the mood by watching porn stars get it on or by reading some stimulating erotic fiction. Even if she’s not normally into watching porn, when you’re trying to get dirty with each other, she may be open to incorporating a video or two. Erotic writing of a less-than-professional caliber can be found all over the internet, but there are also quality sexy stories available from people with actual skill. Take a trip to the bookstore together and pick out something that looks promising.

Initiate

You are probably going to have to be the one to make the first move if you want to get a little nastier in the bedroom. Even if you’ve piqued her interest, she’s still not likely to start things off herself. Start talking dirty, set the mood and hopefully she’ll follow your lead.

She may surprise you

For most women, revealing their private, filthy thoughts may be difficult, let alone actually acting on them with you. Once you get her comfortable talking about it, disclose some of your own secrets ideas, gather some inspiration and try new things. You may be surprised to find out that your girl is more of a freak in bed than you would’ve guessed.

The Kama Sutra is an ancient Indian text that was written to help teach men on how to have a happy marriage.

A lot of people think that it’s just about sex, but that’s not strictly true. The Kama Sutra is made up of 7 sections but only the second, called ‘On Sexual Union’, details different sexual positions.

This part of it is illustrated with drawings to show couples different ways of having sex.

Despite it being centuries old, it is still just as fun to try today. Some of the positions are a little more challenging than others, but all are designed to give both of you pleasure.

We’ve taken some of the most popular Kama Sutra positions from this ancient book to help you spice up your love life.

Widely Opened

How to do it…

Your man kneels on the bed. You raise your bum and thighs and wrap your legs around him.

Then arch your back and lean backwards as he thrusts in and out of you, holding you underneath your back.

What’s great about it?

Leaning back with your boobs on full show will drive your man wild and make you feel brilliant as a result.

Clasping position

How to do it…

Traditionally the clasping position is done with the male on top but we’ve flipped it round to put you in control.

Get your man to lie down on the bed with his legs stretched out. You then get on top of him and let him enter you. As he does so, stretch your legs out straight behind you and start to move back and forth as fast or as slow as you like.

What’s great about it?

It’s a great position for full body contact, kissing and touching throughout. It’s also good for well-endowed partners as he won’t penetrate you too deeply.

Indrani

How to do it…

Lie on your back with your knees bent up to your chest. Your man then kneels behind you and enters you. You can pull him towards you by clasping your hands behind his bum and rest your legs by his armpits or push your feet against his chest.

What’s great about it?

If your man is quite well endowed, this position will make it easier to ‘accommodate’ him.

Milk and Water Embrace

How to do it…

This position needs to be performed on a chair with no arms.

He takes a seat and you climb aboard, but facing away from him. You begin with him touching you as you guide his hand around your genitals. Then when you’re both turned on enough, he raises you up and lowers you down on top of him.

You then rock back and forth to give you both a really explosive orgasm.

What’s great about it

You get great foreplay as well as great sex and it can be done anywhere you have a chair!

The Tigress

How to do it…

Get your man to lay out on the bed, then sit on top of him with your back to him and lean back with one hand on his chest.

He then grabs hold of your waist and thrusts up and down for a great sensation.

What’s great about it?

You’re in complete control.

The Congress of the Crow

How to do it…

This oral position is basically the same as the ’69′, in that it allows both of you to pleasure each other at the same time. Each of you lies in a semi-foetal positon with your head by the other’s privates, giving easy access to do what you like with them.

One tip – don’t concentrate too hard or you might forget to enjoy yourself!

What’s great about it?

You both get equal pleasure at the same time.

The Lotus

How to do it…

Great for yoga lovers, this position might challenge you a little bit but is definitely worth a go. You lie on your back and cross your legs and bring them as much towards your chest as possible. He then thrusts in and out of you – all you’ve got to do is hold the pose!

What’s great about it?

The position should really hit your G-spot

Suspended Congress

How to do it…

He lifts you and holds you under your bum. Your grip his waist with your thighs and push your feet against the wall to support yourself. Requires quite a bit of strength from him but the results are worth it.

What’s great about it?

You get the thrill of doing it somewhere different.

Splitting of a Bamboo

How to do it…

This is the basic man-on-top position but with a bit of a difference. You raise one leg up in the air and hold it by his ear or rest it on his shoulder – you can even swap legs throughout if you’re feeling adventurous. This will allow for deeper penetration – all the better for you!

What’s great about it?

You just get to lie back and relax – he does all the work.

The Pair of Tongs

How to do it…

This position is for the slightly more energetic and you’ll need some strength in your arms.

You lie off the edge of the bed on your side, just with your calves, ankles and feet still on the mattress. You support yourself with your left arm and he holds you up from your waist.

He steps over your left leg and holding your other leg up and enters you while you dangle precariously off the bed! It sounds confusing but will all come together when you get going.

What’s great about it?

This really gets the blood pumping and should give you an explosive orgasm.

The Germinated Seed

In this position, the woman lies on her back and bends her knees upward or rests them on her chest, and of course, her feet are in the air. This is an amazing avenue for deep penetration, not to mention the view for the both of you. The man should be on his knees in front of her for direct entry. The advantage of the Germinated Seed is it brings the back of the vagina closer to the front, however, men should take their time before picking up the speed so it’s not painful for his lover.

The Lower Union

This position, which is also a deep penetration, is optimal for the feel of vaginal tightening because the woman is taking her thighs to her chest and planting her feet in his chest. It would be best if the man takes his time with this, because if he’s on the brink of a climax, it’s going to come quickly, so try this after the first round and in the heat of the session versus towards then end. Men should want this to be a pleasurable experience, not a quick fix. Take your time and get to know your lady’s body and enjoy her sweet juiciness.

The Turning Man

The positioning of the woman’s leg in this one is important because it opens the vagina to an array of sensations. While she’s on her stomach she has to curl her leg upward and lean into her elbows. This will allow the man to lean to the right or left or plunge down and forward for some g-spot action. Ladies, be  sure to switch legs, although is may seem like it would make no difference, remember the vagina is asymmetric and stimulation on either side varies. *Note: Ladies, get over the habitual face-to face interaction, your man loves to watch how your body moves and responds to his. Rest assure that the hip grip is sexy to him.*

The Rest of The Warrior

After extended amounts of time performing physically, rigorous sexual positions, The Rest of the Warrior is good for revamping and tender intimacy. The woman lies on her back with her knees up and feet flat on the bed. Her lover’s leg will pass under her knees so he is alongside her. Also, being that the vagina is in an unusual position, he’ll likely hit places that will send chills through her spine.This position allows face-to face interaction and frees up his and her hands for some clitoral and nipple play. Ladies don’t forget the dirty talk, tell him how much you love everything he’s doing. The same goes for the men, tell her why you love giving it to her and how good it feels to you.

The Touching Embrace

This is by far one of the greatest positions to stimulate her G-Spot, and also makes room for good intimate touch. The man holds his lady in between his torso and thighs, giving direct contact to her G-spot. The movement is, however, a little tricky. The woman won’t have a whole lot of freedom to move her hips, neither will her lover. The purpose of this position in particular is not so much for deep thrusting but more for rocking. This takes a rhythmic connection and a desire for both to get to know each others body. If performed properly, the man will feel his lover’s inner walls heat up, swell and ultimately explode, and in some cases climax together. Again, in this position, free hands equals double pleasurable arousal. *Note: Ladies, if you feel like your G-spot could use a little extra pressure, for heightened arousal, tuck a pillow under your waist for that magical sensation.*

The Union of the Shy Woman

Shy is by far the woman who can master this feat. If a woman successfully pulls this off, she has mastered the art of tease seduction, and will also create the avenue for the most anticipated entry that will shoot chills to the ends of both your spines. This position is foreplay at its best giving penile, vulvar, clitoral, nipple and breast stimulation. Let the erogenous zones get to know each other with some grinding. Use this time to whisper to each other lip to lip, and ladies use this time for a little oral action for your man. This way you can get him at his his largest from beginning to end. When you finally work your way to penetration, ladies keep your thighs together for vaginal and clitoral stimulation.

The Morning Star

This is every woman’s chance to show her man her riding skills and take his arousal to new heights. Because the man is in a chair, his hands are free and can use them for clitoral and nipple play. In this position, the woman does most of the physical work, which allows the man to match his digital rhythm to hers. *Note: Fellas, the downstroke is the most pleasurable for your woman when she’s on top, so play with pressure on the clitoris and nipples to gauge if rigorous or light caress heightens her sensation.

The Union of the Elephant

This position is like trickery to a woman’s inner arousal. Once she feels like she’s found the spot that drives her wild with euphoria, she’ll find another with the slightest of movements. This is yet another position in which a man’s hands are free and he should use them wisely. Oftentimes, men get caught up in watching a woman move on and off of his body. While he enjoys the show, he should also engage in making every moment a pleasurable experience of dual interaction. Also, men should remember that it’s his duty to help set the rocking rhythm to keep the connection constant.

The Leaning Position

This is the ultimate transition from the 69 position. If in the heat of the moment while in the 69 position, instead of maneuvering into the overused face-to face position, try something different. As the sensation is strangely erotic during oral engagement, imagine the potential explosion with opposite-end entry!  The man’s view of his lady’s hips thrusting is, in itself, climactical but the movement of this position requires you two to push and pull gravity simultaneously. This is not an easy task and should be respected for the courage it takes. So if your an amateur, don’t be too proud to let it be known, and let your partner guide you. Or, it could be a learning experience for the both of you. Try something new together.

The Position of the Tongs

This is the position of admiration. Place a few pillows under the woman’s waist to stay level and prolong the sensual arousal. This position will also allow the both of you to take the lead. With the man on his knees, he can take control of her waist and set and maintain the tempo. The woman keeps her feet flat on the bed, and can take the lead by rocking herself back and forth while her lover’s hands are free to roam her body. This way, the both of you can share the spotlight and watch your partner closely, which is a good way to learn what the both of you prefer while taking in the beauty of each other’s sex. Men you can take this a step further, play with your rhythm and tease her with a deep stroke every so often to keep her anticipating your movements.

No.10 Avoid your pockets

The first tip on our list of the top 10 tips to show confidence with body language is to keep your hands out of your pockets. We put our hands in our pockets when we’re uncomfortable or unsure of ourselves. And as long as you have your hands stuffed down your pants, that’s how other people will view you.

Instinctually we tend to hide our hands when we’re nervous; keeping your hands out in the open indicates confidence and shows people you have nothing to hide. Also, recognize that putting your hands in your pockets encourages slouching, which isn’t good. As an alternative, try putting your hands on your hips; it’s a far more confident posture.

No.9 Don’t fidget

Fidgeting is a clear sign of nervousness. A man who can’t keep still, is a man who is worried, tense and certainly not confident. Your hands can be your worst enemies — fight to keep them still and steady. You can definitely talk with your hands, but keep your gesticulations calm and under control. Also, when seated, avoid that rapid leg-vibration thing that some guys do (you don’t want to look like a dog getting his belly rubbed).

No.8 Keep your eyes forward

Keeping your eyes level might be one of the trickiest ways to show confidence in body language. When you’re walking anywhere by yourself, it often feels natural to lower your head slightly and watch your step, but this posture communicates to others that you don’t want to engage in conversation or interact. And if you’re not careful, you might get into the habit of doing it all the time. Keep your chin up and your eyes forward, even when you’re walking down the street by yourself.

No.7 Stand up straight with your shoulders back

Standing up straight is one of the most important of our top 10 tips to project confidence through body language. It can be a challenge especially if you’ve been a sloucher all your life, but get over it. Standing up straight is perhaps the most important means of communicating confidence. Concentrate on pushing your shoulders back slightly when standing and walking. Nothing major, just a little. That one simple motion does wonders for your posture. Try it in front of the mirror — you’ll be surprised how much more confident it makes you look.

No.6 Take wide steps

A confident man will never be described as “scurrying,” “creeping” or “sneaking,” so pay attention to the way you walk. If you want to show confidence with body language you want to take large steps. Wide steps make you seem purposeful and suggest a personal tranquility, which denotes confidence in a man.

No.5 Firm handshakes

Another of our top 10 tips for showing confidence with body language has to do with the firm handshake. There are few things worse than reaching out your hand during an introduction and getting a palm full of dead fish. Don’t be that guy. Instead, grip the other person’s hand firmly and confidently. If shaking hands with someone you’ve already met, you might even consider the two-hand grab: placing your free hand on the other person’s elbow adds warmth and enthusiasm to the handshake. Just don’t get carried away. A handshake is not a contest. Don’t try to crush the other person’s hand and don’t hold on too long.

No.4 Proper grooming

Imagine yourself walking into a room, maybe there are lots of beautiful women there or maybe the room is filled with respected colleagues. Now consider your appearance: four days’ worth of scruff, bad skin, hair crispy and pointy like a Backstreet Boy’s. The point we’re trying to make is that grooming is an essential component of communicating confidence through body language. You want your hair, face and even your smell to work for you, not against you. Don’t be afraid to experiment with new products to find the ones that work for you.

No.3 Smile

Confident people smile because they have nothing to worry about. Try this as an experiment: smile at someone as you pass them on the street or walking around the office. Chances are good that they’ll smile back. Now wouldn’t you like to have that effect on people all the time?

No.2 Don’t cross your arms when socializing

Crossing your arms is a protective posture. We do it when we’re cold, nervous or on guard. Think of those big, burly nightclub bouncers, crossing their 26-inch pythons while standing guard at the door to a club. Do they look like guys you want to talk to, joke with or work with? No, right? Their job is to look intimidating. Your job is to look likeable, open and confident. So relax a little and keep your arms uncrossed.

No.1 Use contact to show appreciation

The pat on the back is a lost art. Don’t be afraid to pat a buddy or a colleague on the back when he or she delivers a perfectly timed punch line or nails the big presentation. Most people aren’t freaked out by a hand on the shoulder and they’ll likely be appreciative of your sign of affection and respect.

Asparagus

It has an obvious phallic shape, but asparagus is also rich in potassium and vitamin A which boosts your sex drive. Asparagus also contains vitamin E which is needed in the production of sex hormones.

Avocado

It sounds bizarre, but the Aztecs called the avocado tree a testicle tree because the avocados hang in pairs and look at bit like testicles! They’re also rich in vitamins D and E, which help the body release energy from food, so you’ll have more stamina for the bedroom!

Bananas

Bananas are rich in potassium and Vitamin B, which are great for producing sex hormones. They’re also an aphrodisiac because of their phallic shape (surprise, surprise).

Basil

This herb stimulates sex drive, boosts fertility and increases circulation. The smell of it is said to be irresistible to men, though we’re not suggesting you switch perfumes!

Chilli

The body’s reaction to eating chilli is similar to the feelings you experience when having sex, such as an increased heart rate and circulation and sweating. Red chillis are more potent than green. They also contain a substance called capsaicin which gives the body a temporary high.

Chocolate

Chocolate contains a chemical called phenylethylamine. It’s released naturally in the human body when you’re in love. Chocolate also contains dopamine which is a natural painkiller and serotonin which produces feelings of pleasure. The melting point of chocolate is slightly below our body temperature so it gives a pleasurable sensory experience when it melts in the mouth.

Garlic

Garlic’s brilliant for improving blood circulation, which boosts sexual performance and makes erogenous zones more sensitive. Apparently it also stimulates an enzyme to be produced in the body that’s responsible for erections.

Ginger

Looking for a little more sensitivity in your man? Feed him ginger! Its scent is also supposed to be a sexual stimulant. Ginger warms up the body and increases the heart rate, copying the body’s reaction to sex in a similar way to chillis.

Honey

Its sweetness and stickiness makes honey a sensual food. It’s also rich in B vitamins which are needed for testosterone production. Some studies have found that honey could increase the levels of testosterone in the blood.

Mustard

Mustard’s spicy flavour increases the circulation of blood around the body which makes parts of the body more sensitive. It’s thought to stimulate the sexual glands and cause a rise in adrenalin. This will help you become even more desirable to your man.

Oysters

Oysters are rich in zinc which is needed for testosterone production and improves sexual potency in men. Testosterone is also thought to increase libido in women. Oysters resemble female genitals which will get your man going. All the recipes below contain oyster sauce, which is made from oyster extracts. Or, how about taking the plunge and buying half a dozen oysters from your fishmonger? Even better with a glass of champagne!

Pine nuts

Pine nuts are high in zinc, which stimulates the libido. A lack of zinc can cause infertility and impotence. They also contain a compound called boron which stimulates brain activity.

Pineapple

Brilliant for digestion, so eat after a romantic dinner. It’s rich in vitamin C and is used in the homeopathic treatment for impotence.

Raspberries and strawberries

Described as fruit nipples in erotic literature, strawberries are the symbol of passion, they’re perfect for sharing, rich in Vitamin C – which is used to treat impotence – and great for a Valentine’s dessert.

Rocket

This salad leaf has a mustardy strong flavour that stimulates taste buds and makes the mouth more sensitive.

Tell Her She Looks (and Tastes) Great

It can be tempting to look a beautiful woman up and down, and the more beautiful she is, the harder it is to concentrate on the conversation. Just remember, if she catches you staring at her chest when she’s telling you how much her mom means to her, you’ll look like a creep.

No.9 Be well groomed

Scraggly facial hair styles and even a hint of body odor will kill your chances with women. Women want their men to be well groomed. They want them to look and smell good all the time. That doesn’t mean you necessarily have to be clean-shaven, but any facial hair you do have should be well maintained. Think about it: You judge them based on the way they look. Why wouldn’t they do the same with you?

No.8 Help her with her coat

If you’re trying to come up with simple ways to impress women, you might think about the kinds of things your grandfather used to do. Women love old-school displays of chivalry. Helping her put on her coat is a great example. It’s a kind, courteous act that’s not so common anymore. That’s why it will help you stand out. It’s also a good way to increase her comfort level with you as it allows you to get close to her without getting too close.

No.7 Socialize with her friends

When deciding whether or not to ask a woman out on a date, you probably evaluate her personality and her looks, among other things like her sense of humor and her intelligence. Well, women do those things too, but they also think about our potential as partners. And one of the things that speaks to our potential is our ability to fit into her social network. Women are attracted to likable, social, charming men, the kind of guys their friends and families will love. So, engage in conversation with her friends even as you’re working your magic on her. Impress them and you’ll impress her. Just make sure it’s clear that she’s the one you’re interested in.

No.6 Ignore your phone

Nothing says, “You’re not that important….” like taking a call from someone else or checking a text in the middle of a conversation. That’s why ignoring your phone is one of our top 10 simple ways to impress women. The culture of texting has gotten way out of hand. Too many men think it’s perfectly acceptable to take a phone call or fire off an e-mail while you’re on a date or in the middle of a conversation. Well, we have news for you: It’s uncivil. When you’re talking to a woman, let her see you silence your phone or turn it off completely — show her she has your undivided attention.

No.5 Ask her questions

When you’re getting to know a woman you should do your best to make her comfortable. That means steering a conversation toward a subject she’s comfortable talking about — like her. Just about every woman likes to talk about herself. It’s a subject on which she has a lot of expertise, after all. Asking her questions about her past and her favorite things will allow her to open up and feel comfortable, while simultaneously showing her that you’re interested in more than just her looks.

No.4 Open doors

Another entry on our list of the top 10 simple ways to impress women: Open the door for her. Opening the door for a woman is a classic gentlemanly gesture. The otherwise admirable push for gender equality has largely eliminated acts of chivalry like this one. Do your part to bring chivalry back by opening the door for her.

No.3 Compliment the way she looks

So here’s the thing: you want to give her a compliment, but you want it to seem sincere. Thus, you need something a little more original than, “You have incredible eyes.” Give this a shot: Compliment the way she looks in her outfit. Say something like, “You look great in that dress.” It’s a great way of telling her she looks hot without rerunning the same old compliment and it also communicates that you’re attracted to her in a way that, “Cool jacket!” does not.

No.2 Ask for advice

Whether you’re apartment-hunting or trying to set your buddy up on a blind date, women are impressed when you ask them for advice. It shows her that you value other people’s opinions — in particular, her opinion. Be careful not to come off as clueless here, though; you don’t want to act like you know nothing. You also don’t want to put her on the spot or make her feel uncomfortable. When asking for advice, get her perspective on a limited set of options. For example, does she think you should move into a townhouse or a loft? This kind of question allows her to easily express an opinion, and hopefully sparks a more extensive conversation.

No.1 Compliment her positivity

Telling a woman she gives off a “happy” vibe will make her feel good. That’s the vibe most people want to give off all the time. It also allows you to then ask her about the things in her life that make her so happy, which will make her feel even better, positive feelings that she’ll ultimately associate with talking to you. This kind of a comment centering on positivity is another one of our top 10 simple ways to impress women.

It doesn’t take much to convince a man to have sex. As a matter of fact, it doesn’t take any convincing at all — just a hot woman, and even the hot part is optional.

Scientists ran a study to prove that men will have sex with anything or anyone anywhere, and the results aren’t exactly groundbreaking.

When a gorgeous female approached a random male on the street, a whopping 97% of men agreed to go back to her place right away for a drink, and 83% said yes to immediate sex.

Apparently the thought of her being the Jigsaw Killer doesn’t seem to cross their minds.

Interestingly enough, men are not as trusting to average-looking girls, though. When the grenade approached, only 80% of men agreed to go back to her place, while only 60% approved of instant sex.

In contrast, not even 1% of women agreed to the same proposition when the tables were turned.

While it’s not surprising, it’s a tad startling that such a high percentage of men will trust a stranger in an unknown place just because the prospect of sex is on the line.

Many men think of this wonderful fusion of intimate acts, but they seldom step up to the plate. They either fear rejection or they aren’t sure how to initiate a sensual massage. The truth is that most women are very receptive to a massage, but how receptive your woman will be to a sensual massage depends heavily on her mood. You can help by starting with a regular massage and easing your way into a more intimate affair. Here’s how to get started.

Prepare

Before you get started, you’ll need some items apart from your hands and a body to put them on. To help you maximize her enjoyment of the evening’s entertainment, make sure you invest in baby wipes, massage oil or lotion that is safe for internal use, a blindfold, and a towel.

As well, there are some things you need to think about before you jump right into the sensual massage:

• Your hands must be clean and your nails trimmed.
• Your hands should be warm.
• Never apply the oil or lotion directly onto her body; place a good amount in your hands, rub them together, and then begin the massage.
• Start out with a light touch; your objective is to arouse her, not bruise her.

Give her a full-body sensual massage

This doesn’t mean that you should attempt the tedious task of massaging every  square inch of her body. Rather, give her a sensual massage with your body. Your hands aren’t your only tools; make good use of your oiled arms, chest and stomach.

If you don’t think that she’ll fully appreciate your torso, feel free to put your mouth and tongue into the sensual massage mix instead. Kissing, licking and warm breath on flesh are usually welcomed with an erotic response.

Use your hands in different capacities

While you use one hand to caress her body, use the other to explore her on the inside. In particular, find her G-spot with your finger and bring her to an earth-shattering climax. This would be an ideal time to incorporate the blindfold, as removing one of her senses will increase the stimulation she’ll feel from your sensual massage.

Head to the erogenous zones

We all know the parts of a woman’s body that get the most attention. Areas like the vagina, nipples and feet are targeted because men often don’t know that a woman can be aroused in other locations. Her wrists, fingers, ears, the back of her neck, and the insides of her elbows and knees are probably visited as often as tourists travel to Iraq. Feel free to rub, kiss, lick, and even nibble on these neglected regions. She will feel appreciated, and thus aroused, by your attention to detail. Remember to take your time and read her body language.

However, don’t neglect her most important arousal areas, such as her clitoris, breasts and labia. She’s accustomed to having these areas stimulated, so she probably expects them to get some of your attention.

Give her a sensual bath

A sensual massage need not be limited to land lovers. If the oil has become too much for you, you can give her a sensual bath. Simply fill the tub with some warm water and bubbles, blindfold her and put her in the bath. You have the option of getting in with her, but you’ll likely have more freedom to maneuver and focus on the task if you stay out.

If you wanted to increase the ambiance, you can light some candles and burn some incense. Rub her body, stimulate her insides and glide your hands all over her until both of you can no longer take it. Remember that your ultimate goal is to get her to jump out of the bath and run for the bedroom, where the two of you can get on to greener pastures.

Get your rub on

The art of massage, and particularly sensual massage, has taken a backseat when it comes to sex. Be an original lover and give her a night that she will want to repeat. Remember that if you treat her to this, chances are that she’ll repay you with a little favor that you’ll greatly appreciate.

The live cam and live chat business is one of the most vibrant and successful areas of online adult entertainment. It is also the most mercurial, owing to the constant improvements and breakthroughs in visual technology, mobile phone technology and interactive capability. For this reason, XBIZ World contacted various executives who have spent years in the live cam and live chat arenas, to learn their educated views on what trends are taking place right now and in the near future.

Sean Christian, Vice President of Sales for Cams.com, had this to say:

“One of the biggest things that we are seeing inside of this is the fact that people are actually looking for higher definition inside of their broadcast clients. High definition cams, by far, are more important than everything else that’s going on, and it’s usually the highest grossing vertical inside of interactive live entertainment. People are no longer looking for those scratchy bad connections from Eastern Europe. They want high bandwidth and good quality.

“I would say the other significant thing we are seeing is that more and more people are interested in chatting with cam hosts in their native language. No longer do the Germans want to chat with American cam girls. They want to chat with German girls. And Americans want to chat with English-speaking chat hosts. Before, the market was dominated by being primarily Eastern European, and this wasn’t really a relevant thing. But as high bandwidth connections are more common now globally, and people have the bandwidth to look at that better camera and to take that better audio, they want that resolution. They want that quality, and they want a native tongue to interact with. We’re now looking at more domestic cam hosts in whatever region we market to.

“As to the future, I think the interactive and virtual stuff is just shenanigans. We played with it for a decade. No one is that interested. We’ve already played around with virtual stuff and it is just not something that people are interested in. I’ve been doing this [type of business] for 10 years. Virtual is going nowhere. I might have egg on my face, but so far every company that has attempted it has abandoned it.

“I think the hottest thing coming up in the future will be Widgets on Smart TVs. [Widgets are standalone applications that can be embedded into third party sites by any user on a page. Widgets allow users to turn personal content into dynamic web applications that can be shared on websites through installed codes.] That’s absolutely where everything is going. I want to see a cam girl in my living room on my 60-inch TV in 1080p. And the reverse of that is to create a working, functional mobile application that you can see on your iPhone. It goes one way or the other. Either I want it big and in high definition where I don’t have to leave my couch, or I want to get it on my phone. Those are the two things that we are pushing forward with Cams.com.”

Leo, founder and president of MyFreeCams, one of the world’s largest adult webcam communities, had this to say about the trends in live cams and live chat:

“I’m seeing an upward trend in that things are going really well and the industry is still growing. What’s pleasing our customers is the live interaction. We like it because it can’t be pirated and it can’t be given away for free, the way that so many tube sites are. This has affected the pay video sites, but it hasn’t affected the live cam sites. I think that members are really responding to the live interaction and the spur-ofthe-moment immediacy of their interaction with the performer.

“It’s a little hard to predict what will happen in the future, but it’s interesting what is happening with 3-D. Consumers really are looking for that now in the movie theaters and in the TVs they’re buying, so it’s going to be interesting to see how 3-D affects the live webcam sites. I think that definitely will be a trend in the next year.

“A lot of toy companies are always approaching us to beta test their products. Sometimes the products are for the members and sometimes they are for the models. Sometimes the products are for both, in which they can control each other’s toys and devices. This takes the interactive experience to the next level.

“I think that mobile is another important trend and one of the challenges currently in mobile is that on the one hand you have most webcam sites operating in Flash, while on the other hand you have Apple basically saying they will not allow Flash on their iPhone and iPad devices. That’s really causing problems for a lot of sites. The Google Android system does allow Flash, but it’s still a bit funky when it’s on the phone, so I think it’s going to be interesting to see over the next year how webcam sites adapt to either not using Flash for their video delivery, or how otherwise to bring that experience to the mobile phone.

“The companies that really stay ahead of the curve and innovate the most and the fastest will come out on top.”

And finally, Yuval Kijel, Vice President of Sales for IMLive.com, provided his take on the live cam/live chat trends:

“From my point of view, the major trend is in mobile. It’s happening. It’s now. It’s here. For us it’s happening very strong. We have a few mobile products and we’re doing extremely well. The big breakthrough that everyone has been talking about is happening now.

“For us it’s always been the diversity that we have in terms of pleasing customers. I think we have the greatest diversity of all the webcam sites. Nowadays almost every company has a webcam site, but I think it’s very important for customers to find exactly what they are looking for and our diversity provides that. This is what keeps them happy and keeps them coming and in the end it’s what keeps the models coming.

“In the future I think we’ll see more and more free services. I’m not quite sure about 3-D, but everyone is talking about it. I think it’s a nice feature, but not more than that.”

So, you’d like to coax your woman into getting naughty and nasty with a third party? It could be an extremely difficult goal to attain. However, if your woman is very open-minded and sexually explicit, initiating a threesome can be a very simple task.

Threesomes aren’t for everyone

First off, if your significant other isn’t a very sexually open-minded individual, then it’s quite unlikely that she’ll be bringing another woman home any time soon. For instance, if she doesn’t accept you ejaculating in her face, swallowing, or worse yet, giving fellatio altogether, then we suggest that you don’t even bother suggesting the idea of a threesome.

If you do broach the topic and she’s less than enthusiastic about the idea, then it’s likely that you’ll end up having your own little threesome for some time to come — you and both of your hands. After all, if she refuses to let in you in anally, why in the world would she accept another woman in the boudoir?

Sorry guys, but some women will simply refuse to get involved in a situation that they believe is a potential threat to their relationship. If you know your girl well, then you can probably predict whether or not she’d be delighted with the idea of licking another woman’s privates, or better yet, watching another woman lick yours.

Double your pleasure

For the rest of you who are pretty sure that your women will be keen on the idea of bringing another sexy vixen into the bedroom, here’s the lowdown on how to bring up the idea.

Before anything, remember that you shouldn’t act overenthusiastic, otherwise your girl might feel like this is your way of saying, “I want to cheat on you — with your permission, of course.” No matter how you bring it up, make sure that your girl knows that she is what matters most.

Gradually begin discussing sex and sexual fantasies. Put your fantasies out on display so that she can get an idea of what you like. When you begin discussing the date for three, don’t say something like: “I’ve always wanted to bang two chicks at the same time!” You should know what to say and the repercussions of being part of a threesome.